THE LIFE COACH LIFE
Managing of The Mind...
How did you get started in the industry?
I spent most of my late teens and 20's feeling unlovable and unworthy. I was always looking to other people for my value and didn't really care who they were, as long as they made me feel better about myself. I dated men and women, young and old, nice and mean, married and single. After hitting my own "rock bottom," I met a Life Coach who changed everything for me. She helped me to find my own worth and to discover that my biggest problem was the story I kept telling myself about who I was and what kind of life I could have. She helped me to overcome those limiting beliefs, to stop feeling so needy and helpless and to finally take control of my own thoughts, feelings and life. When I realized that I was now living a life that was better than any I had ever imagined, I knew I wanted to do the same thing for other women. I got certified in 2016 and ever since then have been helping women improve their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves.
Where are you located and where are you originally from?
I am a Colorado native and have lived all over Colorado - I'm currently in Colorado Springs, but I coach women all over the country!
Who are your biggest inspirations?
The first book I ever read that really changed my life was "Yesterday, I Cried," by Iyanla Vanzant, who I am obsessed with. Her story is insanely inspiring and she is just such a beautiful soul. I am inspired every day in so many ways by my gorgeous sister. She is the most amazing mother to her four children and handles her chaotic life with such grace it sometimes blows my mind. I have been so inspired by the therapists and coaches I have worked with over the years who saw things in me that I couldn't see in myself. I am inspired by all the female entrepreneurs I know who had an idea or a dream and were determined not to stop until it became a reality. I am also so inspired by my clients - their willingness to show up and be vulnerable and to change even when their brain is screaming at them to stay to the same is incredible. I love watching them learn and grow and fall in love with themselves. I love watching them step into a life or a relationship that they never thought was possible for them, knowing that they created all of it.
What is your greatest accomplishment yet?
The life I have right now is my greatest accomplishment so far because of everything it took for me to get here. I have made some really bad choices that could have "ruined me" but I made the decision not to let them define or limit me. For so long I didn't think I deserved or knew how to be truly happy, or to have a healthy, loving relationship with a man, or to pursue my dreams, so the fact that I am here now, doing all those things and more, is something I'm proud of beyond words.
Who are your biggest supporters?
My parents believed in me and my potential long before I did. They have never stopped loving me or supporting me, even in my darkest days when most everyone else had turned their backs. My boyfriend is also a huge supporter and encourages me to keep going even when we are both anxious and unsure. I also have an amazing group of female friends who are also entrepreneurs, which is so important. They understand the challenges and insecurities that come with pursuing your dreams and building a business. They are there to remind me WHY I want to do this work, even when I'm pretty sure I should just give up and go work at Target.
What do you love most about your work?
What I love most about my work is watching the small shifts happen for my clients. Each time they practice standing up for themselves, taking things less personally, asking for what they need, I see a spark that shows they are loving and respecting themselves just a little bit more than they used to. I feel so honored to be a part of their journey and watching them leave unhealthy relationships, own their shit (can I say shit?) and step into their power is a beautiful thing.
What is something you have struggled with in your career?
I think at certain points we all struggle with impostor syndrome, whether in our professional or personal lives. Being an entrepreneur and a business owner, some days I have to work really hard to silence that voice in my head that says, "who do you think you are? You can't do this! Look at her, she's doing it SO much better than you are!" Fortunately, through coaching, I've learned to manage my mind rather than letting it manage me but I'm still a human being and some days it's still a struggle.
What advice would you give to young girls looking to do what you're doing?
I would encourage young girls to dream more and to spend more time thinking about what is possible for them rather than what is not. After high school, I went to college because it was what I was "supposed to do," and after that I got a job working for someone else because it never occurred to me that there was another option. I would encourage young girls to focus more on what they are passionate about and what lights them up and then figure out how to make that happen, rather than thinking about what they "should do" or what seems to be the most rational. I would also tell them (even though they probably wouldn't listen) to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks!
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
In five years I see myself loving my life even more than I do now. My boyfriend and I have a dream to open a Cat Cafe here in Colorado Springs within five years. I will also have published my memoir by then and will be speaking on bigger stages to bigger audiences. I will still be working with women individually, in group coaching and on retreats. I will still be collaborating with other amazing women. I will also be spending as much time as possible with my nieces and nephews, who I adore beyond belief.
How have things changed for you in the past couple of years?
So much has changed for me in the past few years. Personally, I've had many losses in the past few years, including my favorite grandparent, my boyfriend's father, and my cat Lani, who was my best and sometimes only friend. I've also had lots of positive changes too, though. Six months ago, we bought a house and moved to Colorado Springs in order to be closer to my family which has been awesome. I've also gone from being a full time employee working for someone else to being a business owner and entrepreneur. That has been harder than I expected but also more fun than I expected. My days are filled with writing, speaking, coaching, and hanging out with my nieces and nephews - which are all things I love.
Anything coming up that you're looking forward to?
I just launched my new program, "Back to You Bootcamp," which is perfect for women who are ready to take control of their thoughts, feelings and results. I'm also being interviewed on several podcasts that will be coming out soon, including Journey of Hope, Dare to be Authentic, Life After Loss and Be a Force! I have tons of speaking engagements coming up this year too and am always looking for more. In my personal life, I'm looking forward to spending more time with my nieces and nephews this year, traveling more and maybe even getting engaged!
Best self-care tips for when you're exhausted and overworked?
Many people think self-care means massages and bubble baths and sometimes it does, but a huge part of self-care is setting and enforcing boundaries. If you're feeling exhausted and overworked, it's time for you to take your power back. Identify the people or situations that are draining you and figure out where you need to set or enforce boundaries more effectively. Remembering that you ALWAYS have a choice and that you are never powerless is a game changer for your business and your personal life.
People can also e-mail me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org. I'm happy to give $100 off my six week "Back to You Bootcamp" to any of your readers if they mention this interview! - here is the link for that program - http://bit.ly/Back2UBootcamp